Hookup Guide: How to Arrange, Choose Locations, and Important Tips Revealed!

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“Hooking up” is slang for people meeting up for intimate encounters. In today’s world, it’s quite common. Everyone’s busy, with little time to build relationships, let alone date. Emotional connections require time, money, and effort, which isn’t everyone’s lifestyle choice.

So… if you have needs, why not find someone to quickly fulfill them?

Hooking up is like an interview; it requires some process, skills, and even precautions. Today, Ryan openly shares his hookup secrets, hoping everyone finds satisfaction and happiness after reading!

You can start by reading this article:Must-Read Before Hooking Up｜What is Hooking Up? Is it Good? Is it Dangerous? What are the Risks?

Casual Encounter Mindset

This is very important! Imagine if others found out about your casual encounters, how would you react?

★If you are:Yeah, that’s right, I did meet up casually, no big deal.

Then you might be suited for casual encounters.

★If you are:Um… uh… no, not really….

Deep down, you’re afraid of others finding out and don’t want to make it public. You can’t let it go. Ryan would advise you to think it over carefully and not to try it lightly to avoid getting hurt.

How to arrange a casual encounter? A step-by-step guide.

Finding a casual partner.

Of course, you need a partner for a casual encounter. Otherwise, who would you enjoy the moment with? There are four ways to find a partner:

Potential candidates:It could be a friend of a friend, someone you’re not close with but have some connection to. If the date doesn’t work out, you just stop contacting each other, no big loss.
Acquaintances:Like some old classmates or friends, meeting again at a gathering, having drinks, exchanging glances, and feeling a spark. It’s a nice scenario.
One-night stand:Ryan also includes one-night stands here, wanting to share his experiences. Going to bars or clubs, initially just hanging out with friends, but then noticing an attractive person at the next table. Offering a drink, chatting, and flirting a bit. As adults, testing the waters, and if both are interested, prioritizing personal needs over hanging out with friends. This happens quite often.
Dating apps:With so many apps available,Tinder,Yueme,Tantan,Bumble, any of them can help you find someone.

Ryan offers four directions for everyone to choose from based on their comfort level: If you feel that meeting offline first has more chemistry and you don’t want to share information online, the first three options are ideal. If you’re okay with others seeing your photos, dating apps can be quite efficient for finding casual encounters.

Start casual encounters

Besides one-night stands met at clubs or bars, other casual partners need to communicate through Line, WeChat, IG, etc. If you’ve already hooked up, Ryan won’t elaborate further; as long as the other person is interested, you can arrange it anytime.

If you’re reaching out to strangers, prepare your introduction and photos first!

How to write a dating app bio? What photos to use?

For those looking for casual encounters, there are a few signs everyone knows:This person is here for a hookup.

No photo
Shirtless photos
Body shots
Only lists height, weight, size, bust

If you want to be straightforward and direct, this method is the most efficient. However, if you choose ‘no photo,’ your chances of matching will be much lower because trust decreases. Without additional information, people might not even want to start a conversation with you.

You might wonder, if you’re not a wealthy beauty or a rich handsome guy, does that mean you can’t hook up?Of course!

◆ About the photos

The effort you need to put in is taking a photo with a “smile”—whether it’s a gentle smile or a big grin. Regardless of your looks, a friendly face will greatly increase your chances of matching.

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◆ About Me Section

You can describe your life, needs, and expectations, talk about your busy work life, and how nice it would be to have someone to walk and chat with, establishing a “relaxed,” no-pressure, no-commitment relationship. (No more writing: My cat can do backflips, want to come over and see!).

This way, people reading your profile will know you’re actually looking for a hookup!

Start chatting, ease into the hookup topic

Please don’t start with“Wanna hook up?”as it will just get you ignored. Even though everyone is here for some fun, nobody wants to deal with someone who seems too casual about it. If you want someone to meet up with you, make them feel like it will be enjoyable.

Start with a light conversation, ask what kind of relationship they’re looking for on the app, or use their profile to start a topic. Gradually steer the conversation towards topics related to intimacy and romance. When the time is right, discuss views on intimacy, like preferences, favorite genres, or any quirks, then appropriately suggest meeting up for the real deal.

How to choose a hookup location?

If it’s your first time meeting this person for a casual encounter and budget allows…

Ryan suggests meeting at a“hotel”. Going to someone’s home when you’re not familiar with them, whether male or female, carries certain risks.The key point is, exposing your own place right away could be risky if the person has ulterior motives.

Instead of taking these risks by inviting them home, why not spend a little on a motel for a carefree encounter? It’s much more enjoyable.

If it’s your first time meeting this person for a casual encounter and there’s no budget…

If budget is really tight, inviting a woman over might be more relaxing for her.

The above scenario is the ‘direct hookup’ version. If it’s the first time meeting this person, Ryan himself would drive to pick her up, have a meal together, chat, and then proceed to the main event.

With the buffer time of driving and dining, you get to know each other better and can analyze the person through conversation. If you notice any red flags, like bad breath, body odor, loud or rude behavior, or if their appearance isn’t appealing, you can make an excuse to leave after the meal, avoiding a disappointing encounter.

Hookup etiquette

Avoid married individuals

If you go through with this meeting and get caught, there’s a chance a summons could end up at your place. Of course, if you can prove you were unaware of the marital status beforehand, most cases result in no charges. But even if it ends up fine, the time and energy wasted in the process can be draining. Even for casual encounters, it’s crucial to protect yourself.

People who are emotionally sensitive and easily get attached.

These individuals often overthink the physical pleasure and emotional satisfaction, believing the pleasure they get from you is also emotional fulfillment, leading to dependency, commonly known as getting attached.

Disappointing encounters.

People like awkward partners or those with performance issues are often avoided in casual meetups. Sometimes you can’t avoid them, but it’s important to be observant.

Differences in Casual Encounter Perspectives Between Genders

For women, arranging a casual encounter is generally much easier. It’s like choosing from a pool full of options, selecting the one they desire.

In Taiwan, the ratio of casual encounters between genders is quite different. Among those aged 15 to 22, about 50% have had such experiences, with women making up 40% and men 60%. This disparity gives women more leeway in choosing partners.

Communication is key during intimate encounters

If you encounter someone who only knows basic moves, don’t hesitate to guide them. Request the positions and preferences you desire, as they might not know better. Take charge to ensure your satisfaction.

Unattractive, small, loose, soft, short… these are things everyone hopes to avoid, but in this scene, encountering them is inevitable.

If you can’t handle it, don’t force yourself.

In such situations, instead of forcing yourself to go through with it, follow your heart! If you can’t handle it, don’t force it, as doing so will only bring discomfort when you recall it later.

If you’re a kind-hearted person and feel sorry for the other party, it’s okay to go through with it, but remember it’s not true happiness, and they can’t bring you joy. Just keep the encounter brief! Whether you pretend to be less capable or reach the peak quickly, even if the other person is a bit disappointed or mocks you, let it be. After all, our goal is just to be generous.

My Experience with Casual Encounters | Summary

Everyone feels fear and helplessness when they first dive into this vast ocean, but with each success or challenge overcome, they gradually savor the experience and understand the rules of survival in this realm.

Casual encounters and long-term relationships share the intense passion of the initial stages. This repeated experience is what casual encounters offer. Those involved are either seeking warmth or battling loneliness; it’s universal. Separating intimacy from emotion is challenging, initially awkward, but it becomes easier with practice and a strong mindset.

As you become more cultured, the variety of people you meet and connect with increases. While casual encounters are open to anyone, those with depth find it easier to connect. After all, who wants to engage with someone lacking substance?

Ultimately, casual encounters transcend mere physical interaction, becoming a mutual exchange without obligations or promises, simply fulfilling each other’s needs.

After reading this, it’s clear that casual encounters require time and experience to choose the right setting and partner. For more tips, feel free to consult Ryan Entertainment.

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